Yes, we have all been teased. We all have hurts. Human suffering certainly touches us all. On some level, most of us are both wounded as well as wounders. One of my favorite quotes is, “Hurting people hurt people”. Or, to put the same idea differently, it is generally not happy, well-adjusted people who hurt others.
We are carrying these hurts around and trying to protect them from others maybe because we don’t want to appear weak or maybe because we are worried they may hurt us more. Most of us are walking around with our guards up and we miss being able to really connect with others.
Does that mean because most of us are wounded that none of us deserve to heal? Does it mean that you do not deserve to heal? When we are able to work through what continues to hurt us, long after the event is over, everyone in society benefits.
We are able to become less defensive. We are able to become less critical of others. We are able to become less angry. We are able to become less fearful. We are able to become less sad.
We are able to become more compassionate. We are able to become more considerate.We are able to become more accepting of others. We are able to become more at peace with ourselves.
By breaking sociological and emotional barriers in our personal lives, we can learn more about ourselves. If enough people did that, then society will change and become more open and accepting. And that is what makes therapy non-selfish. It truly does benefit everyone around us.