We have all done it… maybe it is making a typo, maybe it’s forgetting something…and we respond with:
- I am so stupid
- I’m an idiot
- I can’t believe I’m so dumb
And we get angry at ourselves, and for what? Being human?
The consequences of this constant inner criticism include:
A fear of others including an inability to hear criticism from others without either becoming angry or feeling like a victim. Poor self-esteem leads to anger, fear, and sadness.
People who struggle with poor self-esteem are more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol. These people are also more likely to earn less money per year and are often unable or unwilling to ask for raises or seek out better employment because their fear keeps them frozen.
The good news is that low self-esteem can improved and it all begins with a little thing called Self-talk.
Critics of the “self-esteem” movement think this is all there is to it, but that is far from true.
While getting a hold of our habit to constantly insult ourselves, the real key is figuring out our own particular way of making a difference in the world around us.
For some of us it is:
- participating with animal rescue groups
- delivering meals to shut-ins
- volunteering at your child’s school
- being a poll worker
- driving the elderly or disabled to vote
- running a Facebook page for your favorite cause
- and this could go on without ending
Self talk is only the beginning. If we could all feel good about ourselves just by telling ourselves we are good people then we would not need mental health workers 🙂