I work with women, men, children and teens from a variety of cultures who find that they use avoidance, anger and emotional distancing to protect themselves from uncertainty, outdated scripts, or fear of being who they truly are. With a little bit of inquiry, we find that people take simple ideas and turn them into beliefs, and these narratives turn their worlds upside down; leading to depression, anxiety, fear or grief. Together, you and I can help you to discover what you need, and uncover ways that allow you to take responsibility for your own fulfillment. It begins with two basic ideas: The first, is that needs are necessities and these are nothing to feel shame about. The second, is the idea that true satisfaction and forgiveness are each a gradual process.
No matter what culture, gender, or sexuality- partners struggle with three areas, most often: sex, intimacy, and money. These challenges tend to be present when we as lovers and partners, aren’t emotionally available. Our discontent shows up when we fail to learn the ‘signals’ in ourselves and in the ones we love, and then we neglect to show we care. Frustration is a frequent complaint with partners in primary relationships, and it can be misconstrued as anger, hostility, or rage. Ask yourself what the function of your feelings might be? Perhaps those same feelings convey one meaning to your partner but mean something, altogether, different for you. When you’re with your significant other do you become angry when you’re actually disappointed or sad? On the other hand, do you become embarrassed if you’re actually feeling vulnerable? If you answered yes, (self) cohesion is one of the areas that we can explore together and develop through the therapeutic process. I am a culturally sensitive couple’s therapist and work extensively with multicultural partners, blended families, and racially diverse coupling and their children.
Adolescents and Teens
Adolescents and teens operate in an adult’s world. More often than not they must run on adult time; fit into adult’s schedules and, paradoxically, find themselves challenged when they want adult things. An adolescent’s life is similar to a root system, where thinking and feeling are entwined feeding one another. All the while maturity is in the making. For a variety of reasons, kids can genuinely articulate what they want (for instance, a phone) and at other times they are unable articulate what they need like, a hug. As a parent, are you feeling misunderstood by your teen? Are you a single mother or father who is so exhausted that your tone might sound less than nurturing? Or, are you a divorcee who shows your young children love through money? I work with kids, building a rapport to get behind them in ways they can genuinely be who they are, and also show up in the ways that relate to both of you. We work on areas of empathy, self esteem, and the importance of support.Who are you in your life, right now? Let’s talk.