I marched for myself and my clients

self esteem

I braved the crowds in Los Angeles yesterday. It was beautiful to see an endless stream of people continuing to show up in waves of trains, buses, Lyfts, and bicycles. Naively I thought I could hop on a Metro bus to the subway, but even though it was 7:30 in the morning and I was at the third stop of the line, it was clear there was no getting to the march on time using the Orange Line.


Despite the overwhelming crowds, people, on the whole, remained polite, calm, and respectful of one another. There were babies, toddlers, children, teens, adults, parents, and grand parents. There were small children in strollers, there were men and women pushing bicycles, and there were parents and grand parents being pushed in wheelchairs. We came. We all came (and it was beautiful).


Most of us are concerned about rights we fought hard for and won suddenly being taken away from us. We worry about the loss of the Affordable Care Act, (which some Trump supporters still do not understand is the same thing as “ObamaCare”.  We worry about the sudden rise in hate crimes. We worry about the loss and dismantling of MediCare and Social Security.

We are also angry that we have to keep fighting for basic human rights and basic human dignity for all. FOR ALL. We are all people and we all deserve the same civil rights regardless of gender, sex, ethnicity, sexual orientation, religious preference, age, mental ability, or physical ability.

Human rights should never be taken away because of something so insignificant as what genitals are (or are not) between a person’s legs or what skin tone they happen to be blessed with.


As a mental health professional I am horrified that the homeless rate is so high for the LGBTQ* community. I am horrified at the rate of sexual assault against our gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender brothers and sisters.

It saddens me that so many people are rejected by friends or family for owning and living their true self. It disappoints me that people, beautiful people, feel shame over who they are. It distresses me even more that there are those among us who would shame and belittle others for not being like them. We are all different and that is okay.

Diversity truly does make us stronger. We all have different strengths and different passions and when we come together, we create a beautiful tapestry of life. We are stronger together and I hope we do not lose the momentum that we have right now. I hope we do not let this movement fade.


Regardless of your age, your class, your kink, your orientation, your ethnicity, or your gender, I care about you. Do not give up, and lets not ever stop fighting for what is right.


A substitute teacher in Texas has been suspended for being transgender.


A substitute teacher in Texas has been suspended for being transgender.

“Some concerned parents had come to KFDM, saying they were worried that their child had been supervised by a teacher who was transgender. They say they have no problem with the teacher herself, just that she might be confusing 11-year-olds regarding their own identities.”

As a therapist, the above quote is frustrating for so many reasons that I hardly know where to begin:

  • This type of argument was used to prevent good LGBTQ couples from adopting.
  • The younger children are exposed to a variety of people whether it is race, gender, sexual orientation, religion etc, the less the differences amongst us stand out.
  • The idea that meeting a transgender or transexual person will suddenly make you start questioning everything about your own identity is fear-mongering.
  • Furthermore, since when is introspection and learning more about ourselves a bad thing?
  • Sexual orientation and gender identity is not contagious.

There will always be differences between us humans. Instead of focusing on the 20% the divides us, let’s start focusing on the 80% that unites us!


Come on, P!NK, Seriously?


I was so excited to buy P!nk’s “Truth About Love” concert DVD. In part because she puts on a great show and in part because I recently saw that particular concert at the Staples Center with some good friends. So, I was a bit curious when I saw she had a “bluegrass” version of “Slut Like You”. Nothing could have prepared me for the level of offensive disrespect I saw in that video. It was disgusting and totally failed at being funny.

In the video, it showed “funny” caricatures of hillbillies. Among them were her band and dancers with blacked-out teeth,  women were “pregnant” and drinking beer some of them seeming underage. They were “yucking it up” in every offensive way imaginable. The only thing missing was obvious incest. 

I just cannot understand how mocking hillbillies is any different than dressing as queens and mocking the LGBT community, or mocking any other whole group of people. Or maybe someone can explain how this is different than if they had all put on black face and mocked African Americans?

Maybe it is because we collectively think we are smarter than hillbillies and therefore they deserve to be mocked.

No group of people DESERVE to be mocked. Let me just say that I am a fairly liberal progressive and I do not watch “Duck Dynasty” or “Honey Boo Boo”, I do not know any hillbillies or “red necks” but I would like to think that am mature enough to treat them with human dignity, as I would any other group being attacked unfairly.

Of course this seems to be her attitude toward people who believe tolerance should be for everyone and not just a pet group of people:  this was re-tweeted by @Pink:


I guess she was talking about hillbillies.

This is depressing coming from someone like P!NK who gives lip service to tolerance and love toward others. There is a reason that I usually avoid learning personal beliefs or values of my favorite entertainers. I do not watch TMZ or read most interviews so that I can continue to enjoy their work. This is why. It was sad for me to learn that P!NK is klassy with a k.